A Requiem - A Passing Over
A Ritual for the Dead
Moonpathcuups.org, Fort Lauderdale, Florida
September 8, 2005
(Such a ceremony may attract people from very different religious paths. It may be gentler and less distracting to choose words that will sound familiar to all. There may be additional readings or music that is special to the person being honored.) HPS: We gather here today to celebrate the life and mourn our loss of _________. HP: I welcome those who have come from Pompano Beach to the East, from Hollywood to the South, from Tamarac to the West, from Boca Raton to the North, and all others who have gathered here. (Light a candle for each direction.) HPS: We are encircled in love and caring for _______________ and in the presence of the Blessed Mother and the Lord. (Light candles for the Lady and the Lord.) HP: Remember the words from the Hebrew Book of Ecclesiastes: (This reading might be more effective if the HPS and HP read alternate lines from Ecclesiastes 3:1-8.) There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven-- A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing. A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak. A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace. (The HPS might then tell some stories about the departed. It is really nice if these stories are personal and not generic.) (Next, HPS invites a member of the family to come forward and speak. This person should have previously agreed to do so.) (Next, HP invites others in the family to speak.) (Next, HPS invites others present to speak. Leave a long enough pause so the shy can muster their courage.) (Optional closing words.) When I am gone, release me, let me go, I have so many things to see and do. You mustn't tie yourself to me with tears, Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you my love, you can only guess, How much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love you each have shown, But now it's time I traveled on alone. So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must, Then let your grief be comforted by trust. It's only for a while that we must part, So bless the memories within your heart. I won't be far away, for life goes on, So if you need me, call and I will come. Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near, And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear. All of my love around you soft and clear, And then, when you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and "Welcome Home." (Optional closing words from Rumi, great Persian poet and Sufi Master (1207-1273) I died as mineral and became a plant, I died as plant and rose to animal, I died as animal, and I was human. Why should I fear? When was I less by dying? Yet once more I shall die as human, to soar with angels blest, But even from angelhood I must pass on; All except Goddess doth perish. When I have sacrificed my angel soul, I shall become what no mind e're conceived. Oh, let me not exist! For non-existence proclaims in organ tones, "To Her we shall return!" HP: We thank the Lady and the Lord for their presence here. We thank all those that have come from many directions to join us today. HPS: Grieve not for those who have gone from our world. Now is the time to celebrate their passing For only in death can life begin anew. May the memories of _____________ Bring you joy and comfort. May you find the strength and will To let her/him go in peace. HP: The Circle is open but unbroken, Merry Meet, Merry Part, and Merry Meet Again.